I gave Jayne a three-step process for shattering cognitive boundaries and I want to share that with you in this episode: 


Step 1: Reframe the Memory

I began, “First, let’s reframe that memory. You were chosen to represent your class, which means you were seen as a competent and promising student. Everyone has moments when they lose their train of thought. It’s a part of being human. The audience’s reaction wasn’t necessarily a reflection of your abilities but perhaps their discomfort at seeing someone struggle.


Step 2: Ground Yourself in the Present

“Next,” I continued, “You are no longer that teenage student. You’ve grown, learned, and achieved so much since then. Ground yourself in the present moment. Take deep breaths, feel the floor beneath your feet, and remind yourself of your recent accomplishments.”


Step 3: Practice in a Safe Environment

Finally, I suggested, “Before taking the stage and talkig about something you truly love talking about, let’s replace that old memory by giving a practice version to a group of trusted friends or family. let’s let the new experience, one that you are more than well-equipped to deliver. You replace the old narrative with a new one.”


She nodded slowly. Then, I told her to remember that she can rewrite her narrative, turning past vulnerabilities into future strengths.


This story has a great outcome. With consistent coaching and determination, she took on the challenge head-on. While the memory from high school never completely disappeared, its hold over her weakened. Instead of being a symbol of fear, it became a testament to her resilience and her ability to grow beyond past setbacks.


Ok. that’s it for this episode. 


Remember, breaking cognitive boundaries is far more than overcoming barriers; it’s about freeing ourselves to reach our full potential. We open up a world of limitless possibilities by challenging the ‘I can’t’ and ‘It’s not me’ in our minds.


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